Beyond sex and devotions to Intimacy

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Intimacy has been a large part of our conversations lately.  We are planning to attend a Love After Marriage conference soon and have also been preparing for a long separation due to his job.  In the midst of work, travel, study, chores and parenting we have also been feeling the need for a new and closer relationship with God.  Intimacy.

We have been reminded that intimacy with God is so much more than devoting time. Sometimes it’s easy to go through the motions.  We are taught that marriage is a model of our relationship with God.  Often routines can become habits without heart, good morning greetings and kisses goodbye.

Sadly, as many have discovered sex can just be sex and not intimacy.  Likewise, you can read the Word, raise your hands in worship, make known your prayer requests, or seek His wisdom for the current crisis.   It can just be going through the motions. You can do all that and never have Intimacy.

My amazing husband shared a revelation with me last night.  He was reading in Matthew and a familiar verse jumped out at him.

Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and in your name drive out demons and perform many miracles?’  Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you.’  Matthew 7:22-23

Intimacy has nothing to do with how much we DO for God.  We can even operate out His power, prophesy and do miracles.  We can DO and DO and DO.  We can even seek to know all we can about Him and have a dedicated devotional life.  But did you see what He said?

“I never knew YOU!”

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He wants to know us.  He wants to have intimacy.  He wants us to open up and SHARE ourselves with Him.  Of course, God knows everything about us, even the number of hairs on our head at any given moment.  But His desire is to go beyond his omniscience and engage with what we want to share with Him.  He wants to know us.  He wants intimacy.  Like our own desire in relationship is that our lover would bare his soul with vulnerability, trust and honesty as we do the same.  No coercion, no agenda, no pressure.  Just Love.

I agree with Donald Miller’s reflection from Searching for God knows what  “I have sometimes wondered if the greatest desire of man is to be known and loved anyway.”  I believe in this bed of intimacy is the greatest fulfillment we’ll ever experience.

Are you willing to bare your heart, soul and spirit to the greatest Lover you will ever know?  He is too.

Copyright ©2012


8 thoughts on “Beyond sex and devotions to Intimacy

    cindygrasso said:
    April 11, 2012 at 11:33 am

    Debra, a beautiful post today that opened my heart to grow closer to the Savior. What a wonderful paralell of “knew” and opening up understanding with the illustration God uses.

    Well done!

      Debra Bell responded:
      April 11, 2012 at 1:11 pm

      Cindy, Thank you. I seek to be vulnerable and be known even more with God and in marriage. Risk. Mystery. Adventure. May the romance of the unknown and the promise of security draw us deeper. ~ Debra

    Michelle said:
    April 12, 2012 at 7:47 am

    So good 🙂

    Lisa said:
    April 12, 2012 at 8:48 am

    Debra, I really look forward to your blog posts. They are so honest and real and so filled with Biblical truth!

      Debra Bell responded:
      April 12, 2012 at 8:52 am

      Lisa, That really blesses me! Thanks ~ Debra

    David said:
    April 12, 2012 at 12:53 pm

    Deb it is so true can you


    to just to hear about some one and say they know you. because i head someone say you are this , then found out different that you were this in stead! As you got to know Johan so do some people with God . they heard then experience him and found him to be as his Testimony

    of his self declared .yes Intimate with God is what he desire. the time to get Intimate is time well spent.

    love you Deb


    J. Bell said:
    April 12, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Love sharing with you, baby! Well said. Let’s share more of ourselves with Him every day!

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